Grief and support
How do I support someone who is grieving?
Short answer
Show up with specific offers ("I will bring dinner Tuesday") rather than vague ones ("Let me know if you need anything"). Do not say "they are in a better place" or "everything happens for a reason." Say their name. Ask about them…
What this usually means
Show up with specific offers ("I will bring dinner Tuesday") rather than vague ones ("Let me know if you need anything"). Do not say "they are in a better place" or "everything happens for a reason." Say their name. Ask about them. Return after the first week — that is often when the quiet sets in.
What to do next
- Start the PathAfter checklist for situation-aware first steps.
- Find California county phone numbers for coroner, vital records, and local offices.
- Open the First 72 Hours Call Log before making calls.
- Open the Documents to Find Checklist when you are ready for paperwork.